How To Find The Awesome, Then Build On It (In 6 Steps!)

Very rarely do we need to try to build something from nothing.

More often than not, there is something already there. It might not be much, and it might not be blatantly obvious, but it's more unusual than not for there to be a truly blank slate.

Sometimes a blank slate can be helpful. Other times, conquering the blank page is the toughest part.

So why work with a blank page if you don't have to?

When using the Perfect Fitness Framework, we primarily look at two things: 

How to do less of what isn’t work and more of what is working.

Many of us naturally gravitate toward what isn’t working. And that’s fine. We're hard-wired to be hyper-focused on the "negative" because these are the things we want to avoid. 

But ,we’re likely best served if we can spend time focusing on what is working. These are the things that we want to approach.

Focusing on what we want to work toward is very different than focusing on what we want to avoid.

I liken this to the training we’re using with our puppy, which, when I learned this it was quite the revelation.

When it comes to dog training, it’s often far better to focus on rewarding your pup with what you want her to do versus punishing for what you don’t want her to do.

After all, just because she knows one thing not to do still leaves her trying to figure out what you actually want her to do.

When you know what isn’t working for you. Great. We’ll find ways to do less of that.

But what about what is working for you? Even if it seems like a stretch, what’s working?

Or even, what things are you doing that might not seem like they’re offering much value in your life but aren’t taking anything away from it either?

If it’s a clear win for you, whatever that thing may be, then how might you be able to do more of it?

If it’s a bit of a stretch, how might you be able to make it a little better or make it that clear win?

What’s already awesome in your world? What food or fitness habits work really well for you? How can you build on that?

Remember, there is at time and a place to focus on what isn’t working and looking for ways to do less of that.

But let’s see if we can first start with what is already awesome for us and find ways to do this a bit more or just a bit better.

Do this 6-Step Exercise:

Step 1. Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the center.

Step 2. On the left side, write out everything that is currently working really well for you or has worked well in the past. The one caveat is that just because something worked then does not mean it will now. But, it might, especially if we modify it a bit, so include it.

Step 3. On the right side, write out everything that isn't working or no longer serves you. No bad/good judgments here. Just an honest assessment of supportive/unsupportive.

Step 4. Then, think about what things on the left side that if did more of or more consistently, would make something(s) on the right side irrelevant. How can we crowd out the unsupportive with the supportive?

Step 5. Then, for anything on the right side that hasn't been addressed by the existing items on the left, add new line items to the left side that could potentially fill the gaps.

Step 6. Finally, pick ONE thing and go do it and only focus on that for 1-2 weeks. Make it so stupidly simple that it's more difficult NOT to do it. If you're not at a 9/10 or 10/10 that you're ready, willing, and able to do that one thing, break it down further. Most importantly, don't add in another thing until you feel like that one thing has become a part of you.

The latter part of Step 6 is where discipline comes into play. Done correctly, you won't need the discipline to practice your skill, habit, behavior (remember, make it more difficult NOT to do). The discipline is in the patience and not trying to rush it by adding in more and more or jumping from thing to thing.

I wholeheartedly believe that we can make it easy on ourselves by creating systems for the DOING and saving the discipline for the NOT DOING.

On your side,

Ev

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