Reaching Your Goals Probably Won't Make You Happy

This may come as a bit of a shock, but I bet that you'd be surprised at how little reaching your goals contributes to your happiness. I see it all the time. We set out on this arbitrary goal to lose 'x' amount of pounds or lift 'y' amount of weight. We think when we finally get to that place in our lives that everything will fall into place. 

And then we get "there," and we look around and ask, "is this it?” 

Yup, that's it. And if you unnecessarily put yourself through the ringer in the process by following a strict diet or training schedule, you may also be asking was it even worth it, for this?

Here's the cool thing we're learning about goals. They're important, yes. They give us a sense of direction. Few things are worse than feeling like we're wandering aimlessly (when we don't want to be). But don't confuse a sense of direction with a defined endpoint. 

It's not the goals themselves that we're after, it's the person that we become in the process. 

I've said it before, if you want to be a healthy, happy, fit person, do the things that healthy, happy, fit people do in a way that works for you. 

"Do" implies something continuous. It's something that becomes a part of who you are. There is no "done" to eating in a way that makes you feel alive. You do this as often as possible. There's no "done" to moving your body in a way that makes you feel amazing. You do this as often as possible as well.

Too much of goal setting comes from the business world where the results often produce a particular financial outcome. When it comes to our health, it's a little different.

What I think you'll find is that you'll get much more from "wanting" your goals than you do from "getting" your goals. It’s this wild phenomenon that I see all the time. But what this means to me is that it's the pursuit we're after, not the destination. We’re lead to believe that we should be focusing on latter versus the former. Well, not anymore. That’s where little old me comes in to set the record straight. 

So, enjoy the journey. Be consistent. Find what works for you. Play, experiment, explore. Do that, and I promise you'll have so much more fun along the way. Remember, if you’re not having fun, I can’t tell you that you’re doing it wrong, but I sure know that you’re not doing it right.

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Think you could use a little support in enjoying the journey and having a bit more fun with your goals? The Perfect Fitness Framework can help. It's not a diet. It's not a training program. It's a system for creating freedom, focus, and fun in our lives.