What Now?

Kevin Hart has a great comedy special called "What Now." This has nothing to do with Kevin Hart but the title of this article made me think of it, and since I love good stand-up I felt compelled to let you know. So go watch it. And if you have any stand-up specials that you enjoy, let me know. I’m always game for a laugh. 

I digress.

I titled this article “What now?” because this is the very question most people ask when they’ve “made it.” 

Goals checked off, crushed, and conquered. 

What now?

It’s why I have folks take a few minutes to try to figure out what their goals really mean to them, or what is it that they’re really trying to do. Rarely does this end up being the first answer they give. 

If you thought losing a bit of weight or putting on a bit of muscle or “toning” or whatever the kids are calling it these days was going to solve ALL of your problems and everything would suddenly click, then you’re likely sadly mistaken. 

It’s ok, though. Hopefully, you’re reading this early enough if your journey where I can talk a little sense into you. If not, if you’ve already had one (or many) "Now What" moments, I think I can help. 

The best thing you can do is to try to figure out what you’re really after. 

Confidence, maybe? Well, just know that you might get a little confidence boost from a bit of weight loss, but I know a lot of lean people who aren’t very confident. I’ve been that person. 

More energy to do the things you love? Yeah, eating a bit better should help with that as long as you give some proper attention to what you’re eating. Just know that food alone won’t change your stressful job and poor sleeping habits. 

In either of these situations, there’s more to the story. There always is. It’s not all about weight loss and abs. If you want a bit more confidence, start building the skills (yes, confidence is a skill) that help. Healthy habits work just fine but often lead more to “patient” weight loss and not “rapid” weight loss. 

If you want a bit more energy, unless you’re significantly overweight you’re more likely to benefit from a couple dietary tweaks, a little more sleep, and maybe a new job. Heck, that extra sleep, which isn’t really “extra,” will probably make it easier to make better decisions in and out of the kitchen. 

I’m pretty sure the world would be a better place if we all got just one more hour of sleep. Seriously, steer clear of anybody who brags about how little sleep they get and how much energy they have. 

In my short time on this earth, I’ve learned that we all generally want similar things. Makes sense. If you’ll appease the “new age” side of me for a minute, it makes sense because we’re all just the universe having 7+ billion different human experiences. We all come from the same source. We just go about our days a bit differently. 

I’ve found that we all want to love and be loved. We want to be accepted. We want to feel like we have a purpose. But here’s the thing, your very existence provides all of that even when it doesn’t always feel like it. 

I’m afraid I’ll lose you if I go too far down that rabbit hole so let’s bring it up a few levels and close this out nicely. 

There is an infinite number of ways to get what you want in this world. Just make sure what you want is what YOU want and it’s what you REALLY want. 

Think about what your life will be like when you finally reach your goals and see if you can answer the question, “What now?”

If you can answer that with confidence, proceed with gusto. You’re on a good path. But if you can’t, there may be more to the story, and it might be worth your while to figure that out. 

On your side,

Ev